Who’s Supposed to Pay for the Honeymoon?

When it comes to wedding etiquette questions, the answers you get oftentimes may not be the ones you were hoping to hear, and things get especially dicey when you’re asking about money.  So let’s *delicately* address the question, “Who’s supposed to pay for the honeymoon?”


Traditionally speaking, the bride’s parents were responsible for paying for the wedding, and the groom’s parents were supposed to pay for the honeymoon.  However, and this is a huuuge “however,” it’s pretty obvious that many of the traditional rules no longer apply to contemporary weddings.  For example, it’s very common for brides and grooms to see each other for photos before they walk down the aisle, it’s not crazy for there to be unequal groomsmen to bridesmaid ratios, and many brides choose not to wear veils.  The point being that wedding rules most certainly change over time, and the same goes for rules pertaining to who pays for what.

So what’s the current take on who should pay the honeymoon bill?  Well, some people still think it’s the groom’s family’s responsibility, while other people think the groom himself should pay.  But nowadays when couples are generally getting married later in life and 70 percent of them already live together, it really seems like they should be the ones to pay for their own honeymoon, especially when their families are footing the majority of the bills for the other wedding-related costs.  Below are some additional thoughts about paying for your honeymoon:

– Don’t assume that anyone else will pay for your honeymoon.

– Don’t assume that anyone else will want to pay either (i.e. don’t ask your guests foot the bill).  I’ve shared my thoughts on honeymoon registries on this blog before.

– If someone else offers to pay for your honeymoon, that’s another story.  And if that is the case, consider yourself lucky!

– A honeymoon is a luxury, not a requirement.  If you can’t afford to go on a honeymoon right after your wedding, it’s really okay to save up for awhile and plan a big vacation for your anniversary.

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